I just returned home from a trip to Michigan where we celebrated the life of my Grandma Bev. It was a quick trip, but that being said much was packed into my short two days there including a celebration dinner for my Dad who's birthday is today.
Happy Birthday, Dad! He generally doesn't like to celebrate it on Sept. 11. So on Friday he was presented with his favorite; a German chocolate cake and some less than decent, but heartfelt singing.
Grandma Bev's memorial was the following day at Bryon Center Bible Church; the same church my Grandpa Jerry started in the early 1960's.

I imagine much of it looks and feels the same as it did then and I can tell you that many original members showed up to pay tribute to her. I felt fully present at the memorial, which I wanted to make a point of doing. There was a portion of time where people could get up and say what they remembered about her and I wrote down what everybody said:
-Her Own Person.
-Independent.
-Sassy.
-Opinionated.
-Confident.
-Guide.
-An Entertainer.
I loved each maybe more than I can describe, because I think in some manner I'm trying to develop these exact aspects in myself (I might have already mastered sass). The others I've been coaching along as I learn more about myself and more about this life each of us is meant for. Note that no one said anything about being nurturing, which I think was interesting. It's certainly not a word I'd use for her, but would about my own mom. Not every mother has this naturally, which brings me to my second realization of the day. Many know this, but Grandma Bev was adopted and never met her biological parents, but through research my mom has done we know their names and some facts about them. I don't mean to use this as a political platform or stand on my rickety soap box and preach. It may break under the weight, but I was struck by the thought that a probably terrified teen mom made a harder decision than I may ever have to make and chose a better life for her baby. Because she did that, my life has been shaped and has every one's whom she touched. That's wonderfully powerful. Here is Grandma Bev at 17...don't we all want to be remembered as always young and beautiful?

A speech was given about legacy; I thought this was powerful for a number of reasons, but mostly because every one's legacy is unique. What they leave behind, what takes shape and grows inside each of us, what lessons we learn from their mistakes. Ultimately, the most important legacy any of us can leave is that of Jesus Christ real and loving in the lives of those we meet.
I'm thankful for the unconventional legacy left behind and hopefully mine will look uniquely like me, but hopefully and mostly like Christ.